Sexually Transmitted Infections
Q: My girlfriend and I have both been talking about how safe it is to ejaculate internally without a condom. She has a hormonal implant and the risk is very low, but is it possible to get an infection by ejaculation in the vagina? I’m also wondering what the risks would be with anal ejaculation? We’ve tried anal a couple of times and I’ve been curious as to the safety and risks of ejaculation in the anus.
A: So the risk for pregnancy is very low since she is on hormonal birth control. As for the risk of sexually transmitted infections, if you are exclusive sexual partners and you both have been tested if you have had previous partners, then there is no real risk. The same is true of anal intercourse.
High Libido
Q: My sex drive is extremely high. Like, I want sex at least four or five times a day and if I’m not having it often enough I tend to masturbate at least 15 times a day I think may have a problem.
A: Masturbating 15 times a day can’t possibly leave any time for other activities! When your life is overtaken by any one activity, it is problematic. There is such a thing as “Compulsive Sexual Behavior Disorder”. According to the International Classification of Diseases, this disorder is characterized by:
- A persistent pattern of failure to control intense, repetitive sexual impulses or urges resulting in repetitive sexual behavior, manifested in one or more of the following:
- Engaging in repetitive sexual behavior has become a central focus of the individual’s life to the point of neglecting health and personal care or other interests, activities, and responsibilities.
- The individual has made numerous unsuccessful efforts to control or significantly reduce repetitive sexual behavior.
- The individual continues to engage in repetitive sexual behavior despite adverse consequences (e.g., marital conflict due to sexual behavior, financial or legal consequences, negative impact on health).
- The person continues to engage in repetitive sexual behavior even when the individual derives little or no satisfaction from it.
- The pattern of failure to control intense, repetitive sexual impulses or urges and resulting repetitive sexual behavior is manifested over an extended period of time (e.g., six months or more).
- The pattern of failure to control intense, repetitive sexual impulses or urges and resulting repetitive sexual behavior is not better accounted for by another mental disorder (e.g., Manic Episode) or other medical condition and is not due to the effects of a substance or medication.
- The pattern of repetitive sexual behavior results in marked distress or significant impairment in personal, family, social, educational, occupational, or other important areas of functioning. Distress that is entirely related to moral judgments and disapproval about sexual impulses, urges, or behaviors is not sufficient to meet this requirement.
For a more complete description, check out this site.
You might want to get a thorough evaluation by a sex therapist, psychiatrist or sex addictions counselor to explore the extent of your issue, and to help you understand and overcome this compulsive behavior.