- Oct 20, 2020
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Based on Bella's marriage photo, how old do you think she was when she got married?
She looks a lot younger than she is now, but slightly more mature than when she was in college.
She said she started college 18 years ago (hence the assumption she's 36 now), so let's say she got married 5 years after that, based on her looks in the photo.
So she was married 13 years ago, and then her husband left her, or died, 3 years ago (after 10 years of marriage).
So it wasn't like they just didn't get along, they'd managed 10 years already.
I don't know if a marriage would break up 10 years down the track because of the death of a child (one theory), unless it was the fault of one of them (same goes with the miscarriage theory).
I'm thinking death (as in James' death) or infidelity (either party) are the only things that would end the marriage at that point.
Now there's speculation that the marriage may have ended because of Bella having a one night stand with Jill, but I'll ask you all honestly, if your wife (future or current) was making out with another woman, would you leave her or explore the possibilities?
And if he did leave her (for whatever reason), apart from being a little harsh, Bella enjoys a fairly healthy lifestyle (wine with friends, yoga, reading) plus she's a teacher as well as the librarian. Would a person with this kind of healthy lifestyle be all nutty about a husband that left 3 years ago?
When a marriage breaks up, denial, hurt and anger are common initial reactions, followed by acceptance and then moving on (moving on doesn't necessarily mean going off looking for a new partner, but it means letting go of the old one).
But death, death is different. You don't hate the person for dying (although some people think this at some point in their grief, but they don't harbour it for long), and although the vow is "'till death do us part", a lot of people do feel like they are cheating on a deceased spouse and take a long time to move on.
I still can't see that Bella would be pining after her husband if he left her 3 years ago. By my reckoning, he's dead.
The way that Bella goes on about doing things with friends/students, etc. and the fact that she wants James to come home point more toward the infidelity track imo, but I'm not ruling out there is a secondary (non-death) reason we have yet to learn. Maybe she is just crazy without any trauma...that does happen in rl. I would be shocked if DPC didn't have James return, and ep. 8 is the perfect time to do it. Regarding James not staying to watch Bella and Jill get it on, well it could be that he is like the Maya dad situation. Not everyone is as open to those sorts of things as we on F95
One thing to point out is in the flashback scenes, she doesn't seem all that happy back then either. Maybe smiling just isn't her thing. It could be we are simply seeing how she is choosing to remember in her current state, but I just found it interesting. Maybe it wasn't a traumatic event that caused her to stop smiling after all. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Anyway, I'm still sticking with the James is alive and returning soon for drama theory.